The greatest institutions in history eventually fall, yet a community built from the bottom up can survive almost anything.
What does it mean to lead without authority?
In this episode of Madlik, Geoffrey Stern and Rabbi Adam Mintz revisit Sarah’s story through the lens of women’s agency and community leadership. The Midrash presents Sarah’s tent as a sacred space whose light, blessing, and open doors return when Rebecca arrives. Another Midrash reads Abraham and Sarah as community builders in Haran, with Sarah bringing women into their new community.
The conversation turns to Ronald Heifetz’s idea of “leadership without authority” and to Hakhel, a partnership minyan in Jerusalem. Its founders, Ephraim and Oshrat Shoham, describe building a community where women participate fully in leading prayer and reading Torah. Their story raises a challenging question: Can leadership that begins without formal authority create deeper, more lasting change than leadership exercised from positions of authority—and build a community able to care for one another through profound loss?
Sarah: Leading Without Authority connects Torah, Midrash, leadership theory, and the lived experience of building community.
Key Takeaways
- Sarah builds a community from the ground up. Midrash remembers her tent as a place of light, blessing, and welcome—and as a model for a social institution that outlived the Temple.
- Leadership doesn’t require formal authority. Ronald Heifetz helps us see how women excluded from official roles have led in other ways, creating change that can endure.
- Community is made through shared commitment. At a Partnership minyan in Jerusalem called Hakhel, women and men lead prayer and read Torah together. The community’s strength comes from the people who build it—and care for one another.
Timestamps
[00:00] Leading Without Authority
[01:19] Hakhel Community Story
[02:14] Israel Check In
[05:36] Chayei Sarah Text Setup
[06:37] Akedah And Sarah Death
[08:24] Agency And Patriarchy
[09:26] Commentaries On Sarah
[11:26] Sarah Tent Miracles
[15:06] Sarah Tent As Mishkan
[17:28] Sponsor Break
[18:33] Rethinking Sarah Origins
[19:28] Petach HaOhel Reversal
[24:07] Top Down Vs Bottom Up
[25:35] Modern Scholarship On Sarah
[27:56] Heifetz Leadership Theory
[32:25] Closing Shabbat Shalom
Links & Learnings
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What does it mean to lead without authority?
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The Torah and Midrash portray Sarah as a creator of community.
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Her tent becomes a model for the Tabernacle and the Temple.
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And while those sanctuaries are gone, Sarah’s tent still stands.
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In Haran, Sarah independently created a new community. At Elon Mamre,
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Abraham sits at the entrance to her tent, al petach ha-ohel.
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The patriarch may be outside, but Sarah is at its center.
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Ronald Heifetz calls this “leadership without authority.”
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He describes how women, often excluded from formal roles, developed ways to lead.
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Recognizing this form of leadership, he argues, may offer one of the most powerful
insights into how real social change happens.
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Welcome to Madlik.
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My name is Geoffrey Stern, and at Madlik we light a spark or shed some light on a Jewish text or tradition.
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Along with Rabbi Adam Mintz, we host Madlik: Disruptive Torah on your favorite podcast platform, and now on YouTube and Substack.
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We also publish a source sheet on Sefaria, and a link is included in the show notes.
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This Parshat Chayei Sarah, I’m thinking about a recent Friday night at Hakhel, a partnership minyan in Jerusalem.
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Its founders, Ephraim and Oshrat Shoham, told us how they built a community where women participate fully in leading prayer and reading Torah.
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They did it through shared commitment and communal decision-making.
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Oshrat said she began Hakhel because she was a feminist.
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Then she turned to Ephraim and said that she and her colleagues could not have done it
without partners who were equally committed to feminism.
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Their community has endured profound loss, including the kidnapping and murder of Hersh Goldberg-Polin and the death of their son, Yuval Shoham, in Gaza.
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What does it take to build a community that can lead, welcome, and care for one another?
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Join us for “Sarah: Leading Without Authority.”
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Rabbi, I’m in Israel right now.
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I’m actually in the north, at a kibbutz called Ayelet HaShahar. Thirty years ago, I worked in the lul with the chickens,
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but now it’s a luxury hotel.
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How are you today?
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The Shohams are good friends of ours, and it all comes full circle. They’re amazing people.
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They’ve suffered a terrible loss, but they’re amazing people.
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So it is truly amazing.
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What they told us is that he is a professor of medieval Jewish history at Ben-Gurion University. He was in the United States and discovered what we now call a
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partnership minyan, or egalitarian minyan.
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It didn’t have a rabbi. And even though sometimes in these minyanim, like the one I visited at Hakhel, there is separate seating, what happens on the bimah is—
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His wife, by the way, is an attorney.
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These women, who are doctors and lawyers and academics and can do everything as well as any man, can read from the Torah, serve as shlichot tzibbur, and lead the
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congregation.
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And they really told us this even before they got into the Goldberg-Polins and their son.
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They told us how they brought that idea from America.
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I think we should be proud that they took an idea American Jewry came up with and asked, “Why shouldn’t it work in Israel?”
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And they came back to Israel.
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They had already started a community and a congregation.
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They pushed it as far as they could, and ultimately decided they had to break away.
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They created Hakhel and I made a direct connection.
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And I tried to do this in in the introduction.
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Between this egalitarian minyan, the fact that it was started by women who I will
characterize as at least historically leading without authority, and the fact that they
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built such a strong community that it could withstand all the pressures
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And create this, he they described what it was like to have a hostage in their midst.
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These were people—Jon and Rachel—who had to travel around the world.
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They needed a whole support superstructure.
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When the terrible thing happened and Hersh was killed, it was a shiva around the world.
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The whole congregation had to be behind them day in and day out, bringing meals at every hour.
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The support.
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infrastructure that was created.
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Their son was riding a tank through Gaza, poking his head out from the turret and screaming, “Hersh! Hersh!”
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His nightmare was that Hersh would be underground and be hit by Israeli troops. And then he was killed.
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I made a direct connection between this woman-created environment, this woman-created
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community—with the support of men leading without authority—and what they created. It made me look at our parsha and at Sarah in a totally
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different way.
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So here we are, looking at these verses from a whole new vantage point.
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Are you ready to go Adam?
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I’m ready.
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This is amazing.
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Okay.
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Let’s go.
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So our parsha begins in Genesis 23:1: “Chayei Sarah.”
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Sarah’s lifetime—the span of Sarah’s life—came to one hundred and twenty-seven years.
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Sarah died in Kiryat Arba, now Hebron, in the land of Canaan, and Abraham came to mourn for Sarah and to bewail her.
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The translation doesn’t really capture the Hebrew, because it says: “The life of Sarah was me’ah shanah,
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ve’esrim shanah, vesheva shanim, shnei chayei Sarah.”
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The word shanah is repeated over and over again.
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And I think to understand some of the rabbinic texts that we’re going to look at
that help parse this, we have to backtrack to the pesukim that preceded it in last week’s
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parsha.
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We’ve done this a few times in the last few weeks.
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Here we are in Genesis 22:19.
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Abraham then returned to his servants.
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What is “then”?
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Then is after the Akedah, after the binding of Isaac.
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It says that Abraham returned to his servants.
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It doesn’t say he returned with his son Isaac.
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He departed together with his servants to Beersheba.
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Remember, a moment ago it said Sarah died in Kiryat Arba, in Hebron.
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And Abraham stayed in Beersheba.
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Every word has profound meaning.
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They were not living together, at least on the face of it.
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Some time later, Abraham was told, “Milcah too has borne sons to your brother Nahor: Uz the firstborn, and Buz his brother, Kemuel, the father of Aram, Chesed, Hazo, Pildash, Jidlaph, and Bethuel.”
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Pildas, Zilpach, and Betuel.
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And then in verse 23 it says, “Bethuel being the father of Rebekah.”
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These eight Milcah bore to Nahor, Abraham’s brother.
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So we have the end of the Akedah, then a genealogy that includes Rebekah, who will become Isaac’s wife, the second matriarch.
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Then we have Chayei Sarah, where we learn that Sarah is living in Hebron while Abraham is in Beersheba.
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So Rashi says as follows: “And Abraham came from Beersheba.”
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“The narrative of Sarah’s death follows immediately after the binding of Isaac, because through the announcement of the binding—that her son had been made ready for sacrifice and had almost been sacrificed—she received a great shock.”
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sacrifice and had almost been sacrificed, she received a great shock.
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“Literally, her soul flew from her and she died.”
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So, Rabbi, first of all, they make a connection between the Akedah and her death. It could be that she heard about it.
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But what we also have to understand is she wasn’t told about it before.
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But what we also have to understand is that she wasn’t told about it beforehand. So, talking about a woman without authority, she wasn’t included in the decision-making process concerning the life of the son they had waited so long for.
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Crazy.
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I think the term they use in America today is that she had no agency.
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That means she didn’t have the ability to have an opinion, right?
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That’s what everybody wants today.
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We all want agency.
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We all want the right to have an opinion.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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So we’re going to go through a few other commentaries.
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I’ve picked and chosen them because they have insights that I think will help paint the picture I’m trying to describe.
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But I think that.
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You will agree it is a lens to which to see this story through.
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So our good friend Chizkuni says, “And Sarah died.”
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It is most unusual for the Torah to report the fact that a woman died.
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“When such a death is reported, it is not only a compliment to the life these women had lived, but it is also associated with a remarkable event.”
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He goes on …
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And he goes in a different direction than I’m going to go.
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But what I love is that he points out—and here we’re talking about the patriarchy—that the rabbis, who were clearly men, were not insensitive to the fact that their document hardly mentioned
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women.
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When it does mention women, the Chizkuni—and, I would argue, all the rabbinic commentaries—are sensitive to that and ask: What is the takeaway?
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The Kli Yakar says as follows: “And Sarah’s life was one hundred years.”
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“Regarding Abraham, it states, ‘These are the years of Abraham’s life which he lived,’ adding the phrase ‘which he lived’ because he was a man of vitality. He accomplished many things in his knowledge of God throughout his life, recognizing his Creator at three years old.”
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“This was unlike Ishmael, who only repented in his later years.”
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This was unlike Ishmael, who only repented in his later years.
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Regarding Sarah, it does not say “which she lived”.
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Listen carefully.
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“Because a woman experiences the pain of childbirth and pregnancy and is under her husband’s authority, not all of her days are called “life”.”
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Rabbi, isn’t that exactly what you just said?
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That’s amazing, that’s correct.
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Meaning that she doesn’t have agency.
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It’s amazing that in Prague, in 1600,
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the Kli Yakar was talking exactly the same language we talk today.
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It is.
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And again, you know I’m a big fan of the rabbis.
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I think that they are helping and sensitized to the issues here.
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Rabbeinu Bahya says as follows: “A person’s praise and good deeds become known and widely recognized only on the day of their death.”
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At birth, after all, no one knows who the person will be.
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“But at death, everyone knows them and recalls the good deeds and acts of righteousness they performed.”
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Our sages taught something similar about Sarah, our matriarch.
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As long as Sarah lived, a lamp burned in her tent from one Sabbath eve to the next.
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There was a blessing in the dough, and a cloud was attached to the tent.
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When she died, these ceased, and her merit became known.
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That’s fascinating, and it’s based on a Midrash we’ll look at.
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Sarah also died and was buried in the land of Israel after living a long life, as it is written: “Sarah’s life was one hundred years, twenty years, and seven years—the years of Sarah’s life.”
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And immediately afterward it is written: “Sarah died in Kiryat Arba, that is Hebron, in the land of Canaan.”
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This portion ought to have been joined directly to the preceding portion, the binding of Isaac.
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So now he’s taking Rashi to task.
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He says: “Rashi, you say that this portion follows immediately after the Akedah, but when we read it, it doesn’t actually.”
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“Because Sarah died and her soul departed upon hearing the news of the binding.”
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It is well known that the portions of the Torah, as they are arranged and placed next to
one another, are joined for a profound reason.
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They are not juxtaposed in vain.
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Sometimes their juxtaposition reveals a splendid teaching about the renewal of the world,
etc.
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Why then does the portion about Nahor appear and interrupt the sequence?
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“At the time of the binding, immediately after those genealogies, Rebekah was born, the woman destined to be Isaac’s wife.”
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“By the time Rebekah was born, Sarah had already died. Therefore, the Torah places ‘Sarah died’ directly afterward.”
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“We can now understand Rebekah’s placement between the portion of the binding that precedes it and the portion about Sarah’s death that follows.”
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The Midrash says Sarah’s death was placed next to the binding because of what Sarah heard.
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In doing so, the Midrash treats Rebecca and Sarah as though they were one person.
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Listen carefully.
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Rebekah was born only after Sarah died, took Sarah’s place, and resembled her in her good deeds.
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This is what the sages teach through the phrase “Sarah his mother.”
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This is when Isaac finds Rebekah in his mother’s tent: “And behold, she was Sarah his mother”—the Midrash we mentioned.
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So it is saying that Sarah and Rebecca become the same person.
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And the Midrash goes on to say that the light
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burned throughout the week, and the loaves of bread that were displayed and fresh throughout the week,
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ceased when Sarah died, but continued in Sarah’s tent with Rebekah.
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And it adds to what Rashi says: when Rebekah came, the cloud returned.
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All the days Sarah was alive, the doors were kept
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wide open for guests.
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When Sarah died, that opening ceased.
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When Rebekah came, the opening returned.
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All the days Sarah was alive, there was a divine blessing in her dough.
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When Sarah died, that blessing ceased.
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When Rebecca came, it returned.
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So clearly, Rabbi, there is a parallel between the way they describe Sarah’s tent and our
tabernacle.
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You cannot ignore it.
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We’re talking about the bread, the lechem hapanim.
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We’re talking about the light, the menorah.
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We’re talking about the cloud of glory.
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And we’re talking about the tent being open.
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The Mikdash was active.
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It was in operation.
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This is amazing. I think it not only puts Sarah in a new light,
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but it says two things: what Sarah started became a tradition and lasted.
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Unlike the Tabernacle and Temples, which did not last, we light candles every Friday night.
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We bake challah every Friday night.
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Sarah’s tent is still alive.
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And it talks about a masorah, a tradition that lasted.
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It clearly is making
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a reference to a different type of Mishkan.
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It’s juxtaposing Sarah’s Mishkan with Moses’ Mishkan, if you will.
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What do you think of that?
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Yeah, I mean, you know, that’s amazing.
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And the fact that the light of Sarah’s Mishkan continues—that’s really what it’s all about, right?
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That’s what continuity is. That’s what the book of Bereshit is about.
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The amazing thing, Geoffrey, is.
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Then we usually think about the book of Bereshit in terms of the men.
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That’s what you said, because the men have agency.
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But here, what that Midrash does is turn it around and say that continuity is carried through the women, not through the men.
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The light, the candle, continues through the women.
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That’s what this whole thing is about.
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Do the women have agency?
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That’s what the Kli Yakar said:
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that women don’t have agency because they’re under their husbands’ authority and struggle to give birth.
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But here that midrash says it’s the women who have agency and continuity is achieved
through the women.
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That’s remarkable.
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I love it.
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So it makes you want to go back and say maybe we have misapprehended Sarah.
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And I did just that.
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So it makes you want to go back and say, maybe we’ve misunderstood Sarah. And I did just that. I’m going back to Genesis 12:5, which says Abraham took his wife Sarai, his brother’s son Lot, all the wealth they had amassed, and the people they had
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acquired in Haran.
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Now, obviously, the standard interpretation, the peshat, if you will, is that they took their servants with them.
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But the Midrash, echoed by Rashi, asks: Why does it say “the people they had “made” in Haran”?
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“The souls whom they had brought beneath the sheltering wings of the Shechinah.”
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“Abraham converted the men, and Sarah converted the women.”
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“And Scripture accounts it to them as if they had made them.”
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So again, they were in this midrash, they’re equal.
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They’re equal for their gender communities.
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And then, if you go to last week’s parsha, Vayera, it says at the beginning—
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Abraham was at Elon Mamre.
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God appeared to him by the terebinths of Mamre.
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He was sitting at the entrance of the tent as the day grew hot.
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And where was Sarah?
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She was inside the tent.
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Well, Rabbi, we did a whole episode.
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The language it uses is that Abraham is yoshev petach ohel, sitting at the entrance of the tent.
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Well, turn around your gaze.
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When Exodus says
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that the women made the copper stands from the mirrors of the women who performed tasks at the “entrance of the Tent” of Meeting, at the petach ohel moed,
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we reflexively assume they’re outsiders.
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The men are inside; the women are at the entrance, outside.
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Maybe they’re there because they had just given birth and were tamei.
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Whatever the traditional explanations are for someone standing at the entrance, I challenge us to look back at Abraham, who is standing at the entrance of the tent.
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He’s the one on the outside.
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Sarah is running the Mishkan.
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Sarah is running the ohel.
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It gives us a little tweak, a chance to look at some of these things slightly
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differently.
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Now, what do you make?
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Let’s just go back a second.
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What do you make of that?
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What do you make of that? Is Abraham’s petach ohel the same as the petach ohel moed?
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And therefore what?
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And therefore, you could very easily look at the women in Shemot, standing outside and performing tasks, as being outside because they weren’t holy enough,
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because they weren’t in a state of sufficient purity to be inside.
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They were not in a state of purity enough to be on the inside.
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So I challenge us to look again at what happened with Abraham, with Sarah inside the tent, with its light, its cloud of glory, and the challah that lasted all week,
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lasted all a week.
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while Abraham is outside,
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at the petach ohel.
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He’s, you know, maybe like the guys you see in an Arab village, smoking
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their water pipes,
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and you know the women are getting all the work done.
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I’m just saying that if we start to understand Sarah as an amazing, independent woman—and, of course, now let’s go back to where they were
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living—
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Sarah was in a different place from Abraham.
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And the commentaries go out of the way to say, where was Sarah?
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She was in
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Kiryat Arba, Hebron, in Canaan.
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She was in the Holy Land.
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She died in the Holy Land.
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Abraham was on the outside.
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It shows the possibility of a thread here: what I’m calling a change-maker without authority.
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that she had this inner strength.
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It’s not on the chapter headings, but it sure as hell is making the point that.
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This woman, and the tradition she created and passed on to her daughter-in-law and the generations after us, represented a quiet inner strength that I thought I saw a little of
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in Hakhel, a community that was also created from the ground up.
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Now that’s amazing.
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Let me just say that’s a remarkable idea.
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Let’s just give give credit where credit is due.
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You usually think of petach ohel as the entrance to the tent. We learned that Abraham was there
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to meet the guests.
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That’s what we learned in school, that he was there to meet the guests.
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But your suggestion is that it’s better to be ba-ohel, inside the tent, just like being in the ohel moed, in the Tabernacle.
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So Sarah was holier because she was inside the tent.
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She wasn’t only at the petach ohel moed.
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That’s a fantastic idea.
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That the
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Leadership has to be in the tent, not outside the tent.
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You’re really turning the whole 3,000 years of midrashic tradition, you’re turning on its
head, and it’s fantastic.
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Ephraim Shoham would smile if he heard this.
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I’d like to be a little more nuanced. Abraham is an example of leading with authority, and Sarah is an example of leading without
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authority.
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And both of those have their day.
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One makes change from the top down, and the other makes change from the bottom up.
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I’m on a JDC mission, and we’re seeing a lot of that.
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After October 7, when the government was absent, the people who came forward were volunteers and nonprofit organizations.
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Individuals who seized the moment and the day.
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These people literally saved the State of Israel.
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There were municipalities that don’t have a lot of authority.
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I heard a whole speech, and I’d never really understood this. Ronald Heifetz—
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I’d never heard of him before.
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If we have time, we’re going to read some of what he wrote about the concept of leading without authority.
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If we have time, we’re gonna read some of what he wrote about this concept of leading
without authority.
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But that’s what I would like to suggest.
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It’s not a question of more holy or less holy, but two different models of leadership: leading with authority, which Abraham represents,
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and leading without authority, which Sarah
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and Rebecca, the matriarchs, and the remarkable women who followed represent.
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I searched to see if anybody thought like I did, and found a Substack post published on October 18, 2026, by Rebecca Cypess,
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a professor at Yeshiva University.
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She’s a provost.
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Yes.
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She makes the argument a little differently, but it’s worth reading because she also identifies creativity as central.
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She writes: “God’s communications with Abraham show that God considers the patriarch a true partner, to the extent that God is unwilling to hide from Abraham.”
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So now we’re talking about Sodom and Gomorrah.
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While the Torah is more reticent
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in describing Sarah’s status, it hints at a similarly robust partnership.
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“Sarah’s role as a true partner in fulfilling God’s vision is signaled, for example, by the fact that God changes her name from Sarai to Sarah at the same time that He gives a new name to Abraham.”
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name to Avraham.
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I had not mentioned that, but that is true.
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Not only does the Torah take the time to mention her death, but it takes the time to change her name.
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I think that’s probably unique in our tradition.
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“She played a role equal to that of her husband in shaping the lives and outlooks of people around her, which constitutes another form of creation.”
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Perpetual life, ever fresh and abundant bread, and a cloud hanging over the tent.
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Why would the Midrash focus on these three miraculous events?
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What message is it trying to convey?
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“Through her tent, the Midrash suggests Sarah created the model for the Jewish people’s means of communicating with God.”
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“For the Midrash, Sarah’s tent was a place where light was never extinguished, bread was plentiful and always fresh, and a cloud was suspended at the entrance.”
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“These three miracles corresponded to the three sacred items of the Kodesh: the menorah, the shulchan and its ever-fresh bread, and the golden altar where incense burned morning and
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night.”
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So she makes that same connection from the Midrash.
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She also points out that the midrash adds
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in addition to what Rashi says, that the doors of the tent were kept right open.
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she comes up with a theory of maybe Rashi left that out.
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But I want to finish by reading a little from Leadership Without Easy Answers.
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We’re focusing on women, Rabbi, but leadership without authority is Gandhi.
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Leadership without authority is Martin Luther King Jr.
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These people weren’t presidents, congressmen, or senators.
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This Harvard scholar, who studies how organizations make change, focuses on the distinctive power of leadership without
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authority.
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He writes: “The scarcity of leadership from people in authority, however, makes it all the more critical to the adaptive process of polity that leadership be exercised by people
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without authority.”
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“These people, perceived as entrepreneurs and deviants, organizers and troublemakers, provide the capacity within the system to see through the blind spots of the dominant viewpoint.”
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Because we are not used to distinguishing between leadership and authority, the idea of
leadership without authority is new and perplexing, except that we just found it in Sarah.
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“As a result, the person without authority gives few relevant pointers from scholarship.”
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“Analysts have generally neglected the distinctive problems and opportunities.”
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So what he’s suggesting is we should start a whole study, beginning with Sarah, of leaders
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“Leadership may more often emerge from the foot of the table, but that is not where we spend most of our time looking.”
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“We study the lives and characteristics of heads of state and CEOs of corporations, assuming all the while that we are studying leaders and not simply authority figures who serve.”
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It points to the fact that there are leaders who don’t have authority, and should not have authority.
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“I use the metaphor of the table, where the head is traditionally a man and the foot characteristically a woman. That is no accident,” he writes.
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“Leadership without authority has been the domain to which women have been restricted for ages.”
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I was at a JDC lecture where they were talking about top-down
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and bottom-up leadership, and they mentioned this.
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He says, “Yet the constraints of authority are such that there may also be advantages to leading without it.”
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Bottom-up.
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“Yet the constraints of authority are such that there may also be advantages to leading without it.”
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“First, the absence of authority enables one to deviate from the norms of authoritative decision-making.”
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“Instead of providing answers that soothe, one can more readily raise questions that disturb.”
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This is Sarah’s response to the Akedah.
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Sarah’s response was that she went and died.
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She didn’t take it lying down.
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she really that is part of her story.
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“One does not have to keep the system on an even keel.”
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“One has more latitude for creative deviance.”
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“Second, leading without or beyond one’s authority permits focusing hard on a single issue.”
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“One does not have to contend so fully with meeting the multiple expectations of multiple constituencies and providing the whole environment for everybody.”
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It’s a breath of fresh air.
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You can focus just on building community.
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You don’t have to worry about the economy and the war machine.
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“One can have an issue focus.”
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“Third, operating with little or no authority places one closer to the detailed experiences of some of the stakeholders in the situation.”
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“One may lose the larger perspective, but gain the fine grains of people’s hopes, pains, values, habits, and history.”
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And that’s what I saw in Hakhel.
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This was a community that could feel people’s pains, values, habits, and history in a way I think other congregations, with different evolutions,
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did not.
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I was really inspired, and I hope we can all be inspired by Sarah, the renewed, newly discovered Sarah as a leader without authority.
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That’s amazing.
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And to see that the reason Hakhel was so poignant to you was because there was women’s leadership in that role—or maybe men’s and women’s leadership—I think
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is fascinating.
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Anyway, that’s bringing Chayei Sarah, through the model of Sarah,
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to today’s world.
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So thank you, Geoffrey.
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Shabbat shalom to everybody.
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We look forward to seeing you next week.
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Geoffrey, back on this side of the Atlantic Ocean.
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Shabbat shalom, everybody.
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Shabbat shalom from Israel. Let’s bring Sarah back to life again and have a Chayei Sarah that can inspire and guide us as we move forward.
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All the best and see you next week.
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Amen.



